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For me, it wasn't a matter of physical safety their pictures were simply of them 15 years ago. If you're not feeling it for whatever the reason, you can leave. Leave his apartment if you're not into it You should never go over to a person's house (or host) if you haven't already explicitly stated what it is you both plan to do. If you want to bottom, only do oral, or chat in person a bit before getting down to business, make that clear. They might not even have condoms at their apartment. Talk about what you want to do before (sexually) meetingĪre you a gay man who uses condoms? Make that known, since in the era of Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP), many men aren't using condoms. If safety is a concern, only meet up with people who are verified. Verified Chappy users will have a checkmark badge displayed on their profile. The photo is then verified by a real person on the Chappy team confirmation or rejection is sent minutes after the photo is reviewed. In order to get a verified blue check mark on the app, Chappy users are prompted to take a selfie mimicking one of the many random photo poses generated by the app. You can use other popular gay and bi apps that have more safety features built in, like Chappy. Grindr isn't your only only option when it comes to hookup apps.
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Use an app that has m andatory photo verification Shoot a friend a text to let them know you're going out for a hookup, and if they don't hear from you in a a few hours or see any movement, they should find out what's up! I have my location shared indefinitely with a few of my friends. Then it'll let you determine how long you'd like to share your location for. All you have to is head into the specific contact, and at the bottom, it'll read share my location. There are numerous apps to share your location with friends, like Find My Friends, but honestly, the easiest is to share your location directly from your phone. But others will be more than happy to briefly chat before meeting up IRL. For some gay/bi men, it's a little aggressive or simply "too much work," for a casual hookup, so they might not do it. But if you have his phone number, you can ask to FaceTime him, too. Some of the gay/bi apps have a video calls built into them, like Taimi, and then some of the non-gay-specific, but still gay-friendly apps, like Bumble, do too. Again, not a full-proof plan because in theory they could be using a burner, but it is yet another way to help make sure that the hookup is safe. If they were someone who plans to harm or steal from you, they wouldn't want to hand out their number, since it can be traced back to them more easily. When you get his phone number, it's another method of validating his identity. If they can't do the bare minimum, don't bother meeting up. Mind you, it takes all of four seconds to take a picture of your face, upload it to Grindr, and send it. If he says he "doesn't have" them, you are definitely not going over to his apartment. You should easily be able to get five pics, and not just ones of his dick. From my vast, vast experience using Grindr and other apps, here are eight tips to help you feel safe and comfortable when you go to meet a guy IRL.Įvery person who's real on Grindr (and not catfishing) has multiple pics.
There are obviously huge risks involved in having anonymous sex with people you meet on an app, both in terms of physical safety and getting robbed. I love sexual encounters like this, but needless to say, you have to be careful if you're planning on trying it out.
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I can't even count the number of times when I've met a guy on Grindr, and he's left his apartment door unlocked-or even given me the code to get into this apartment-and I've found him tied to his bed, completely nude, and blindfolded. For many queer men, the element of fear and "Who's this guy going to be?" is arousing. Not only are we talking to strangers, we're meeting them in a closed-off space to bone.īut that's what makes it so hot. We're doing the exact opposite of what our parents taught us while growing up.
Many times, we have no idea what he actually looks like before we get there. After exchanging as few as 30 words and sending a picture of our junk, we go to a complete stranger's house to have sex. Gay and bi men have normalized an absolutely wild phenomenon.